This online advertisement has at least two messages. First, that a psychic would be able to tell a woman if her man is cheating. Second, that you have to ask someone else to find out if your partner’s unfaithful.
Cheating is a breach of trust, reneging on an unspoken (or spoken) agreement. But what happens when a woman doesn’t trust her man to tell her the truth when she asks him about his loyalty? Or if she doesn’t trust herself enough to put the pieces together — to answer the question on her own? (This ad calls for both of these behaviors, by the way.)
In the first case, she doesn’t have a healthy relationship to begin with. Which means, cheating is probably more likely to occur with this man than with a man who would tell the truth when asked about his loyalty.
In the second case, she doesn’t have a healthy relationship with herself. Which means, she’ll have trouble being emotionally intimate with any man anyway. And if she’s not emotionally intimate with this man, chances are he’s also not doing the emotional intimacy thing that makes monogamy possible. (If he wanted emotional intimacy, he wouldn’t be with her.) So for various other related reasons, this man’s more likely to wander without telling her — than a man who does demonstrate emotional intimacy.
Of course, asking a psychic, or a psychologist, or even a friend — is the normal thing to do when you get that suspicion. So says the media — which perpetuates cheating (as the social norm).
When you have a problem in your relationship, you go to the person with whom you’re in a relationship. (If you don’t, it’s not much of a relationship.)
The moment you go to someone outside of the relationship to fix it, you’ve obscured the problem. And maybe even cheated yourself.