Cross Creek is the closest thing we have in the United States to forced re-education camps. Cross Creek and other facilities like it are where grotesque parents send their kids to have the gay bullied out of them and the Jesus bullied into them.
This is the story of one girl who was sent there, what she endured while she was there, and the hell that continued after she returned. Here story is extremely sad, and if you are anything like me, enraging. Hold that thought.
The most important thing to focus on in this story is the following:
It then occurred to me that this was what my mother had arranged for my brother several years ago when she had him shipped away to Cross Creek.”
It’s a cliche in psychology that all our problems go back to our mothers. It’s a cliche because most of the time it’s true. The other times are when our problems go back to our fathers.
This mother has some serious problems, obviously. I’d even suggest that she is a danger to her kids, and should probably be taken away from them. If both her kids have problems so severe that she thinks kidnapping them and sending them to a re-education camp is the solution, then the kids should just be taken away from the mother on a permanent basis (or better yet, the mother should be taken away from them. Am I being too harsh? Consider:
Shortly after I left the program I was raped. I shared what happened with my mother, who then told me, like Cross Creek did, that it was my fault, I asked for it, and that I should have known it would happen. She then proceeded to share her own twisted version of the story with my Cross Creek therapist, who shared it with my group.
Again, the mother needs to be atomized, post-haste. She is a clear and present danger to her children. Secondly, nice doctor-patient confidentiality laws they have there in Utah.
Next, the teen writes this in Part 2: “Before I say this next part, I want to state that it is not my intention to bash all of the staff at Cross Creek. Some of the staff were very supportive (A.D., M.C., etc.) and this is not in any way meant to be directed at you,”
This is what it looks like when brainwashing works. This is sympathizing with the abuser. This is not a healthy response. No supportive person would ever work at such a horrible facility, and if they seemed supportive, it’s only in contrast to the people there who were brutal beyond the pale. These nice counselors chose to be there, right. The chose to be a part of this system. Are they actively stopping the shaming and humiliation? No. Silence is assent.
Remember, everyone working at this camp thinks forcibly extracting a minor from their home and sending them to a re-education camp against their will is a good idea. That is the moral crime, everything else is an aggravating factor. That the teen doesn’t recognize this is NOT her fault, but it is evidence that some of the brainwashing “stuck.”
This girl has obviously been through hell and back, and we can have only sympathy and compassion for her suffering and the suffering she will continue to endure as she works through this.
But tomorrow night, another little daughter of an equally wretched mother will be kidnapped from her bedroom in the dead of night and taken to this camp or one like it. It’s this other little girl that I think about.
This little girl doesn’t have the legal right to say no. She doesn’t have the legal right to say that here mom is the crazy one, not her. And in a legal system where justice is a function of money, kids are the most impoverished demographic.
These camps have been around since I was a kid. The outrage against them has been around since I was a kid. There were lawsuits them to shut them down, and others popped up. They keep coming back because they serve an important function.
Because it’s wrong from parent to hit or abuse their kids, the parents outsource the work to others. They can’t imprint the superego, so they hire someone else. The parent know what really goes on at these camps, but their veneer of wholesomeness gives the parent the plausible deniability they need to feign innocence.
People have filed lawsuits against other camps, and counselors have been arrested and prosecuted. But for every camp that’s closed a new one pops up. Because ultimately the parents want places like this to exist, so they do.
Sometime soon, another little girl (or boy) is going to be yanked from her bed and taken to one of these places. It is a crime, morally if not legally. It is heinous, and no one will stop it. She will be overpowered, and there is nothing she can do to stop it. Once there, they will humiliate and degrade her until she agrees to things that she thinks are crazy and doesn’t believe out of fear of unforgiving punishment. When she returns, her parents will gloat that “you know you deserved it.” Nothing can stop this.
All I can say to that little girl is this:
Don’t go quietly. This is your life, and you are being forced to fight for it. You will be scared to fight. You will lose the fight. Fight anyway. Who you are–your courage and strength, your identity– is defined in the struggle, not in the outcome.
So if they come for you, don’t go quietly. Make it hurt. Make them pay.