Three young girls from Dunbar Middle school videotaped themselves tackling an 11 year old boy and taking off his clothes. The group can be heard laughing at times and mocking the boy as he struggled to break free.
Here’s where you say, “If the story was about three boys tackling and stripping the clothes off a girl, they’d be arrested for sexual assault.”
Here’s where you say, “How come it’s okay for the media to air footage of the sexual assault of a minor?”
Those are the obvious things to say, and they are not wrong things to say. But be aware that the media is presenting the story to provoke exactly this reaction. Because that reaction, decrying the double standard is a “safe” reaction.
Here’s the official police reaction: Fort Myers Police says the girl would have faced misdemeanor battery charges, but that the boy’s mother has refused to press charges. She wants the girls’ parents to hand out a punishment instead.
So you read that, and you go ballistic, right? Stupid mother, how could she be so complacent when her son was assaulted, etc. Again, these are all legitimate reactions, because from a purely clinical standpoint the mother is a horrible non-human monster whose oatmeal brain has malfunctioned beyond all hope of repair. That diagnosis is verbatim from the DSM.
But again, keep in mind that these reactions are all entirely predictable and were expected by the media who packaged the story.
Now read the story again, very carefully, and notice what is missing.
Did the boy fight back?
That’s the question that is begging to be answered. The standard is not “What if it was three boys assaulting a girl,” the standard is “What if it was three boys assaulting this boy.” The law is gender blind, so this is not a sexual assault, not sex as act of violence, it’s a fight among middle schoolers. It’s bullying. That’s what the law sees. That’s why it’s only a misdemeanor.
So I ask the question again, another way: If this was a fight, why didn’t the boy fight back? He certainly would have if it he was being attacked by boys. He would have been kicking, punching biting, etc. He clearly doesn’t want them doing this, in the video he’s fighting their grip and when an arm breaks free he tries to get his clothes back on. So it isn’t like he’s in on the fun (and if you think he is, that’s when you cue the gender reversal. Was he asking for it? Was he dressed provocatively, etc.).
So why didn’t he fight back?
Because boys can’t hit girls. That’s programmed so deeply, so early on, from everywhere, that he doesn’t even hit them when they are trying to strip his clothes off. And on some subconscious level, the girls have received exactly that same programming–that boys cannot hit girls–and it informed their actions. They never thought for a second that attacking the boy would place them at risk of a broken nose, black eye, or worse.
Now let’s ask the hypothetical? What if the boy did fight back? What if he started fighting back and put one of the girls in the hospital? What would the story be then? And what would your reaction be?