Sadly, Porn.

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Porn as fantasy, works in the way that you know it’s not true, the act is not really happening right in front of you, but you believe it as if it is real, so that you can act on that fantasy for your own pleasure. For any fantasy to be real enough to stimulate, you must be able to believe.

Tonight’s Girlfriend is a porno that’s simply the fantasy of paying a porn star for a night for her to fulfill your fantasies anyway you wish. Their tagline is: you don’t pay her for sex, you pay her to leave.

Sure, this seems like there’s an aspirational catch, to assimilate the masculine identity into the viewer, but I think there’s something more to it.

There is a bridge in between non-belief and belief, despite knowledge of the truth. In Tonight’s Girlfriend, the bridge is in paying. Payment is the social contract between you and the other to freely agree upon the deal. In fantasy, if you have the ability to ‘force’ your imaginary girl to any position you desire, it wouldn’t be real enough for you to believe it. However, payment gets rid of that conundrum, that paying ‘her’ gives ‘her’ a life of ‘her’ own, she freely chooses to do the things that you desire – it is in the contract. Your imagined freedom for her is what makes her real.

Money – even in fantasy, gives reality to the fantasmatic girl; it is the bridge from non-belief to belief. But how does it work?

Stay tuned. 

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6 Responses to Sadly, Porn.

  1. MarcusB says:

    Excellent, excellent article.

    (Yes, I had to look up a trailer of Tonight’s Girlfriend. Or 10.)
    The payment is indeed the main connection; the directors make a point of showing the “payment” on film, as well as the girl knocking on the door, walking in, having nervous small talk with the the dude, who looks just like you who you could look like if you just went to the gym a couple times a week.

    That cash that he pays her shows how realistic the whole situation is: it could happen tonight if you wanted. It’s so much more believable than some nurse wearing pink lingerie who needs to “inspect your dick.”

    “Cash rules everything around me C.R.E.A.M. get the money”

  2. Brucenstein says:

    From the comments it looks like there’s an actual payment that takes place in this movie. I’m curious, does it come before or after the sex? I ask because, if it comes after, I think even more can be said about this truth/untruth bridge.

    If someone pays for sex they’re paying someone for a mechanical job. You don’t get the emotional fulfillment that you’re probably looking for. I forget the comic, but some standup had a routine where he said (paraphrased), “When you watch porn you pretend that woman in the movie is your girlfriend. Then you see some stranger come in and fuck her.”

    I think that actually says a lot about the “fantasy” of porn, and why you have couples that masturbate instead of swapping fluids together. Is it that the wife is cold and distant? Maybe, but she’ll probably ride you if you ask. Is it that the man is uninterested? Sure, but how long can it take to get him interested, honestly?

    Porn allows us to think the girl (sorry for the male dominated viewpoint here but let’s be honest) is doing those things because she WANTS to. You “pretend she’s your girlfriend”, and your girlfriend just happens to really, really, really want to give you oral. You get all the fulfillment of the fantasy without having to pay any admission. More importantly, without having to create a relationship where that might be true. MOST importantly, without having to create a relationship where sometimes that won’t be true.

    So the tagline, “You pay her to leave.” I think is incredibly telling. She WANTS to screw your brains out is the assumption. You having to push her away is the trigger event.

    I mean, why do they use a pornstar? They could have used anyone. Is it because of a pornstars prowess? Perhaps. But perhaps it’s also because pornstar = slut = sleep with everything that moves = wants me. Ostensibly, your brain thinks to itself, Pornstars screw because they WANT TO SCREW [you], prostitutes screw because they want money. With the former you get satisfaction, with the latter you get mechanics. And you can get mechanics anywhere.

  3. wisegirl says:

    It’s sort of like when Stephen King mentions a modern song or product brand in his books. These details seem to have no relevance to the storyline, yet by mentioning the familiar, he has made real a story that is otherwise supernatural.

  4. MarcusB says:

    Oh and another thing. This works around the same line of reasoning that guys will go to such great lengths for a girl on chatroulette or 4chan to show tits over watching some tubeporn: it’s so close to the real thing.

  5. Porn as fantasy, works in the way that you know it’s not true, the act is not really happening right in front of you, but you believe it as if it is real, so that you can act on that fantasy for your own pleasure.

    ∃≥two kinds of fiction. In serious literature one reads about the development and struggles of a character other than oneself–a realistic consciousness and the pleasure is in exploring another’s experience. In fantasy literature the characters are sometimes flat on purpose, with appropriate superpowers and perhaps a vague quasi-flaw (though less often a tragic flaw) and maybe the aim is for the reader to put themself in the place of the hero/es.

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